Paper Hope Event: Brene Brown's Anatomy of Trust

Please join us for this very special and impactful Paper Hope event: Brene Brown's Anatomy of Trust.

Dr. Brene Brown is a social scientist and researcher studies shame and many other core human components. Her books The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly and Braving the Wilderness have changed me profoundly. I hope you have either read them already or will consider adding them to your reading list.

In Brene’s book Rising Strong, she talks about cultivating trust. She speaks about the Anatomy of Trust on her Super Soul Session.

I used to think that trust was a broad sweeping sentiment and/or action. I thought trust was or it wasn’t present. After reading Brene’s definition and her description of the components of trust I feel differently.

Brene has an acronym for the components, or ‘anatomy of trust’, BRAVING.

B.R.A.V.I.N.G

Boundaries: Brene says in Rising Strong, "Boundaries simply put are whats okay and what’s not okay." Boundaries are a way to have the good things close and keep bad things at a distance. Some examples of things we would want to keep at a distance are people who don’t have our best interests, experiences that might harm, information, emotional states, and more.

Questions to ask yourself when assessing if you can trust your own boundaries: Did I respect my own boundaries? Was I clear about what’s okay and what’s not okay?

Reliability: Trust cannot exist if reliability isn’t present. Reliability is simple. It’s doing what we say we’re going to do, when we say we’re going to do it consistently.

Questions to ask yourself when assessing if you can trust your own reliability: Was I reliable? Did I do what I said I was going to do?

Accountability: Taking ownership for our behavior, including taking ownership when we make mistakes.

Questions to ask yourself when assessing if you can trust your own accountability: Do I hold myself and others accountable?

Vault: In Rising Strong, Brené describes this as not sharing experiences that aren’t ours to share. It means that what you share with me stays with me and what I share with you stays with you. It means that you will refrain from gossip and demonstrate empathy for other people.

Question to ask yourself when assessing if you can trust your own ability to keep it in the vault: Did I respect the vault and share accordingly?

Integrity: When our actions match our words and when we practice our values rather than just profess them. Brené says this is “choosing courage over comfort.”

Questions to ask yourself when assessing if you can trust your own integrity: Did I act from my integrity?

Non-judgment: Being able to ask for what we need without fear of being judged. Being able to provide help free of judgment.

Questions to ask yourself when assessing if you can trust you are being non-judgmental towards yourself: Did I ask for what I needed? Was I nonjudgmental about needing help?

Generosity: Extending the most generous interpretation possible to the intentions, words, and actions of others.

Please join us for this very special Paper Hope Event.